Because every divorce is unique, Divorce With Dignity takes a holistic approach to helping our clients through the divorce process. In addition to our work with clients to help them resolve issues, work out fair divorce settlements, and to assist them in filing the necessary divorce papers, we also counsel with them to determine what other outside help they may need in creating their new life. This could mean, for example, referrals to mediators, moving companies, financial counselors, therapists, or coaches. One of the service providers we refer people to is Sara Crain, a therapist (www.bayareashrink.com) and life coach (www.myloacoach.com) working in the San Francisco East Bay. One of her specialties is helping people through life transitions such as divorce.
We spoke with Sara about what it is like to work with a divorce coach, and some of our conversation can be found in a previous blog posting (Achieve A Peaceful Divorce, Create The Life You Want, https://dwdignity.com/blog/emotional-effects-of-divorce/achieve-a-peaceful-divorce-create-the-life-you-want/). More of our conversation is addressed in this article.
What problems do you often see come up for people going through a divorce?
When you go through a divorce your identity has been irrevocably changed. People often feel “lost”. This is where my training as a coach comes in – I can help you get really clear about what makes you uniquely you – your values, feelings, how you want to be remembered when you’ve left this life. It sounds simple, but it is actually complex. I can support you in identifying what you want in your life, and then challenge you to take the next step toward your goal.
Can you give a few gems of wisdom or advice to those who are feeling lost, or who may feel they have lost their identity as well as their marriage?
I’d like to start with a story about a king who commissioned a metal worker to create something that would make him feel sad when he was happy, and happy when he felt sad. So the worker made him a ring that was inscribed “This too shall pass.” Even though you may feel lost, you are never completely lost – you will find your way. When you look back on your life to other major traumas or setbacks you’ve had, you may be able to see the meaning or the purpose of it now. And remember you did find your way through it.
At Divorce With Dignity (findaprovider.dwdignity.com), we offer you a safe place for you to talk about your unique divorce situation, and can provide referrals to as many other kinds of assistance as you need to help you through this very difficult time. Our mission is to support you and guide you through the divorce maze to achieve a more peaceful and much less costly divorce than through litigation, and to make sure you have access to other services you may need to achieve your goals and start your new life – with dignity!
The author of this blog is not an attorney and the information contained in these blogs should not be considered legal advice. The information provided here is based on the experience of the author and some of her clients whose actual names are not mentioned. Do not hesitate to seek the advice of an attorney if you have any legal questions.
