Your spouse just walked out; left you, and then to top it off had you served with divorce papers.
Now, you’re going to hire your own family law attorney and GET THEM BACK!! You’ll show them that they can’t do that to you.
Unfortunately, a lot of us think that this works. Well, it doesn’t. Sure sometimes it will but the odds are pretty slim. Each court has to follow the law so you can each have a family law attorney and fight over whatever you choose to fight about—your attorney gets paid whether or not you win or lose, so what’s in it for you?
Consider divorce mediation—a wonderful way to resolve your differences. Some divorce mediators are even attorneys, although they totally won’t litigate your case. Their purpose and training is to assist you resolve your differences and come up with solutions that you can both agree on, and they are completely neutral in helping you through this very difficult process. I know you’re hurt, you may not even want a divorce, and you really don’t want to come up with an agreement. Here’s just a look at some of the things you might get by litigating:
- Lots of stress
- Costs thousands of dollars
- Could be an even worse outcome than if you mediated; might be better—depends on what you’re mediating and the law—be sure to do a cost comparison to see if it’s worth it
- Sometimes takes years to complete
- You’ll be angry at your spouse for a really long time
- Sometimes your real needs are overlooked as your family law attorney is presenting the case they feel is best for you—not necessarily what you feel is best for you
Here are a few of the outcomes you might receive from mediating your case with a divorce mediator:
- Makes it a lot easier to get through the process since you’re needs are being acknowledged and addressed
- Saves you thousands of dollars
- You play a key role in the outcome of your matter
- Can sometimes move faster than a litigated matter; really depends on what you’re mediating and both parties
- Allows you to heal much faster and actually find peace with yourself and your spouse
Message of the Day: If you’re not in agreement at least try divorce mediation to resolve your differences; you can each have your own attorney but divorce mediation will help you come to agreements faster.
The author of this blog is not an attorney and the information contained in these blogs should not be considered legal advice. The information provided here is based on the experience of the author and some of her clients whose actual names are not mentioned. Do not hesitate to seek the advice of an attorney if you have any legal questions.
