It’s hard to believe a new year is already upon us. And, whether you’re sad or happy to bid goodbye to 2022, you’ve likely already begun working on your goals for 2023.
While 62% of women and 53% of men aimed to set New Year’s Resolutions for the upcoming year, many fail before they even begin. In fact, a recent study found that almost one in four of us quit within the first week of setting our resolution.
Of course, there are many reasons for this failure. Our goals could be more realistic and easier to turn into action. This leads to disillusionment, wherein we feel as though we will be unable to reach our goal, therefore, should not even try.
However, it’s important to note that fear of failure should not drive you away from making positive changes. In fact, that fear sometimes signifies that the change will be worthwhile and positive in the long run.
As such, it’s beneficial to change how you look at the fabled new year’s resolutions and instead turn them into intentions.
What is the difference between resolutions and intentions?
Resolutions are singular, defined goals that focus more on the endpoint than the journey you will take to get there.
Intentions are focused on changing your mindset, viewpoints, and behaviors to enact positive change. Being intentional in your behaviors enables you to reach goals, as you’re given a framework to follow.
How to turn your resolutions into intentions in 2023.
Set realistic intentions. The goal for enacting positive change in the coming months is to set yourself goals (or intentions) that are actionable and realistic. This often means they are broader than resolutions. This way, you are pouring your energy into something that will be fruitful long term.
For example, if you’re dealing with the emotional fallout of your divorce, your intention could be to take better care of your mental health. This can be achieved by practicing self-care and self-love, speaking to a therapist, or finding healthy outlets for your emotions. Being intentional in your approach to your mental health and well-being will give you the strength you need to heal.
Think about what you actually want. Many of us make resolutions based on trends or other societal factors. For example, we may endeavor to lose weight because it is a common goal and we’ll be happier as a result. However, when setting intentions for the new year, it’s crucial that you think about what you actually want.
For example, some people aim to try and repair their relationship with their partner whenever a new year rolls around. While any healthy relationship takes work, it’s also crucial that you realize when it’s time to get divorced. After all, the core of this aim (repairing your relationship) is actually to make yourself and your spouse happy. Sometimes, this happiness is achieved through amicable separation, as you both have the chance to move on.
Put together a plan. As mentioned above, setting intentions can be more beneficial than setting resolutions because they encourage you to take action. As a result, you should put together a plan that details the steps you will take to bring your intention to life.
For example, if you intend to find happiness and leave behind a difficult relationship, you must consider what this entails. Beyond a discussion with your partner, you’ll have to consider the division of assets and reach out to a legal professional to help you determine your next best step. If you have children together, you’ll also have to involve them in the conversation so that they understand what is happening.
Whether you’ve been married for five years or fifty, we understand that even the idea of getting divorced can be overwhelming. However, we’re here to help you every step of the way. We can help you separate without stress, fear, or financial burdens.
If you’d like more information, please reach out to a Divorce With Dignity Provider in your area. Each Provider offers a complimentary discovery session, where they can answer your questions and speak to your unique situation. Click here to find a Provider near you and schedule your complimentary consultation.
