“Reinvention is not about discarding the past, but about crafting a better future from the lessons it taught you.”
When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it’s natural to attribute a lot of your character, personality, and self-worth to this relationship. As a result, it’s no wonder that so many people feel as though they do not know who they are outside of their relationship – which can make a divorce seem all that more fear-inducing.
However, it’s important to remember that rediscovering or reinventing yourself after a divorce is actually a blessing – and not something to be afraid of. It allows you to learn from this life lesson, meaning you can grow into a stronger, more resilient person. It can also help you to avoid making the same mistakes again in the future or open new doors for you.
As a result, you should not shy away from reinvention after a divorce. You may even want to make it your mission moving forward!
With that in mind, here are some simple ways to reinvent yourself after a peaceful divorce.
Take time to heal.
Many people feel they have to get back on track with their life immediately after a divorce – which is simply not the case. Even if your relationship was over some time ago, you still need to heal – and there’s no actual timeframe for how long this should take.
For example, you may feel ready to return to normalcy and even the dating world in a couple of weeks, or it could take a year. Either way, honor and work through your feelings instead of burying them away. One way you can achieve this goal is by relying on your support network, be that your friends, family, or even a licensed therapist.
Step out of your comfort zone.
When you are ready, stepping out of your comfort zone can also be instrumental in reinventing yourself. This is because it pushes you to expand your horizons in many different aspects of your life, whether you’re stepping into the world of online dating or picking up a new hobby.
The challenges you present yourself with during this time will contribute to your growth – which means they can help change your outlook on life (and yourself) for the better.
Give yourself a makeover.
Every chick flick or romantic movie has that one scene where someone gives themselves a makeover after a breakup. And while it may seem like a cliche, it can actually be a fun way to reinvent yourself during this time.
Set new goals.
Individual goals tend to blend into shared goals when you’re in a long-term relationship. For example, you may have set your sights on buying a new home. However, now you have the chance to set goals entirely centered around your well-being and happiness – which is something to celebrate.
As a result, write down a list of everything you’d like to achieve within the next year. Remember, these do not need to be large-scale goals; smaller, more manageable ones are often better in this scenario, as they’re more achievable within a shorter timeframe. For example, you could set yourself some of the following:
- Pick up a new hobby
- Do some volunteering
- Spend more time with friends
- Go on a date
- Step out of your comfort zone once a week
Each time you tick a goal off your list, you’ll be buoyed with a sense of achievement and confidence that will surely bring a smile to your face. Furthermore, goal-setting also presents you with ample opportunities to reinvent yourself.
If you’re ready to proceed with your divorce and discover a healthier, happier you – please do not hesitate to get in touch today.
