A divorce with dignity means to go through a divorce without litigation and make it as peaceful a process as possible. By doing this, you retain your own dignity, help your family move forward into their new life patterns and retain their dignity and self-respect, and, literally, save thousands of dollars.
A divorce with dignity is done by utilizing the support of as many services as you need to get through this process peacefully. It doesn’t mean going through the process alone. However, you want to make sure that whoever you add to your “divorce” team that they fully believe and support you in going through this process without having to litigate and achieving an amicable divorce.
You start the process by talking to your spouse and seeing if they feel the same way that you do. If you’re not ready to have the “talk” then you might want to talk to a therapist or coach to help you figure out if you really want to divorce, or if the marriage can be saved. If you decide to proceed with the process, then you definitely want to have the discussion with your spouse and see if they feel the same way.
You may need at least five main types of support to help you through this difficult process:
1. Legal support:
a. Independent Paralegal or Document Preparation Service
b. Mediator
c. Family Law Attorney
2. Financial support:
a. CPA
b. Financial Planner
c. Divorce Financial Planner
3. Emotional support:
a. Marriage and Family Therapist
b. Divorce Coach
c. Divorce support groups
d. Your church
e. Your friends
4. Support for your children
a. Psychologist
b. Your church
c. Support groups, such as Kids Turn
d. Their teachers
5. Health support for yourself
a. Your doctor
b. Chiropractor
c. Gym
d. Acupuncturist
e. Nutritritionist
Whatever you do, get all the support you can. This is the “death of your marriage” that you are experiencing and it’s important that you take very good care of yourself during this transition. The offices at Divorce With Dignity can help you put together your support team. Find the Divorce With Dignity office nearest you.
The author of this blog is not an attorney and the information contained in these blogs should not be considered legal advice. The information provided here is based on the experience of the author and some of her clients whose actual names are not mentioned. Do not hesitate to seek the advice of an attorney if you have any legal questions.
