What does a romantic holiday such as Valentine’s Day conjure up in your mind? If you are going through a divorce, it might be a sense of loss, anger, or anxiety (or all three) that looms over you as the day approaches. At Divorce With Dignity (www.dwdignity.com), we understand what you’re going through.
So what can you do to cast off these gloomy feelings when you look at everyone else and the media who are telling us we should be celebrating with someone special?
Spend it with someone special! Whether it be with your children, your single friends, or even yourself. Love has many aspects besides romantic love. Why should going through a divorce keep you from celebrating all the love you still have in your life? You can celebrate Love any way you want to!
Celebrate with your children and/or other family members
Yes, you are divorcing your spouse, but you still have a family.
- Plan some fun time with your kids. Bake a cake together and decorate it with little red hearts. Make some homemade valentines. Watch a comedy and laugh your heads off.
- Get together with other family members who live nearby and may not be planning a “romantic” dinner date (not everyone does, you know). Make it a potluck and during dinner have each person at the table tell what they love about the person sitting to their left. Afterward, play some games or watch a classic movie.
Celebrate with your friends
- Call up some of your single friends and plan a dinner out. Or if you live fairly close to each other, have a progressive dinner party. If you’re feeling adventurous, have everyone bring a friend and meet some new people.
Celebrate with others as a volunteer
- Sometimes doing something to cheer up others can have the same effect on you. You can volunteer to help with a party at a senior center, hospital, or homeless shelter, or just visit with some of the people there with valentines and balloons in hand.
Celebrate with yourself
- Make time to pamper yourself and do what makes you happy. Schedule a massage or a spa day. Take a walk in a beautiful nature area. Explore a good bookstore and spend some time reading in a cozy coffee house. Taking care of yourself and doing something that makes you feel nurtured is a great way to show love for yourself.
There are many ways to make things a little easier while going through (or right after) a divorce, but for some people it may not be enough to chase away the sadness and oppressive negative emotions. If you find yourself in this category, consider talking with a counselor. At Divorce With Dignity, we not only help you get through the process of divorce, we can refer you to a therapist who specializes in helping people deal with the emotional effects of divorce, or to a life-after-divorce coach who can help you discover how to create a new and better life. Contact us today (findaprovider.dwdignity.com) to see how we can help you on your journey through the divorce maze – with peace and dignity.
The author of this blog is not an attorney and the information contained in these blogs should not be considered legal advice. The information provided here is based on the experience of the author and some of her clients whose actual names are not mentioned. Do not hesitate to seek the advice of an attorney if you have any legal questions.
