I once had an attorney ask me, “If you were on an operating table would you question what the doctor was doing?” That sure was a great technique, and I ended up paying him a bundle. Well, times change, and these days we even need an advocate for dealing with hospitals, doctors, etc., because no one wants us to know anything—the same applies to law—you deserve to know how it’s going to work and what to expect.
How many times have I heard, my attorney is stalling and I don’t know what to do, or my attorney won’t settle, or I’m afraid to call my attorney because it costs so much money? Well, they may think they have you over a barrel because they’ve convinced you that they’re the only one who can help you get a divorce. Wrong, wrong, wrong. There are lots of other attorneys, mediators, and paralegals who can help you through this process. Don’t forget, you’re their customer and who’s always right? The Customer!! You need to control your process and be in charge. You may not know how to get through the legal system, but there are many professionals who do, and as long as you know what you want and how the laws in your state work, you should be able to get your divorce in a timely manner. And if you and your spouse can agree, wow, that can save you thousands of dollars, frustration, and months, maybe even years, in finalizing your divorce. So demand that your attorney does what you want them to do; and if they don’t want to do that, then you can dismiss their services. That’s right—you have the power—you actually have the right to control your divorce; not only the right—your crazy if you don’t take charge and make sure you’re getting what you want.
Message of the Day: If you don’t get along with your attorney, or agree with their methods, you can dismiss them and start with another professional. It’s probably going to save you a lot of time and money in the long run, so cut your losses and take control of your process.
The author of this blog is not an attorney and the information contained in these blogs should not be considered legal advice. The information provided here is based on the experience of the author and some of her clients whose actual names are not mentioned. Do not hesitate to seek the advice of an attorney if you have any legal questions.
