By Denise Foster, LDA
Introduction: When “We Agree” Still Feels Stuck
In Alameda County and across California, many couples start the divorce process with a reassuring phrase:
“We agree on everything. We just need to get it done.”
But then the paperwork starts. The questions begin. And the once-clear path gets foggy.
If you’re in this boat, you’re not alone. Many of my clients come to me after months of delay—not because they were in conflict, but because they didn’t realize how much is involved in finalizing even an uncontested divorce in California.
Let’s take a look at why so many amicable divorces stall out—and how to keep yours moving.
Understanding the Term “Uncontested Divorce”
In California, an uncontested divorce means both spouses:
- Agree on every issue (property division, support, parenting plans, etc.)
- Are willing to sign all required documents
- Do not need a judge to make decisions for them
It doesn’t mean the process is automatic. It still requires multiple steps:
- Financial disclosures
- Proper legal language in your agreement
- Accurate, timely forms
- A final court review and judgment
Even when there’s no conflict, there can still be confusion.
Why Amicable Divorces Get Stuck
Here are the most common reasons:
1. The Forms Are Overwhelming
California requires over a dozen legal forms depending on your situation. Just choosing the right ones (FL-100? FL-180? FL-150?) is a challenge.
2. Agreements Are Too Vague
You may agree on “who gets what” — but your court needs clear, enforceable terms. That includes specific timelines, values, or percentages.
3. Mistakes Cause Rejection
Incorrect or incomplete filings are a leading cause of delay. One misstep can send your case back to square one.
4. Support Calculations Are Confusing
Even if you’re in agreement, you’ll need to properly calculate and disclose child or spousal support using approved guidelines and documentation.
5. It’s Just Too Much Emotionally
Let’s be honest: divorce is draining. The paperwork alone can feel like too much when you’re grieving, managing kids, or just trying to move forward.
What You Actually Need to Finalize Your Divorce
Even if you agree on everything, here’s what still needs to happen:
- Full financial disclosures (Schedule of Assets and Debts)
- A Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA) written in acceptable legal format
- Correct court forms, properly completed and signed
- Filing and service procedures that meet California rules
- (In some cases) Notarized documents and parenting plan details
Doing it wrong can lead to rejection. Doing it right can bring relief.
How I Help Uncontested Divorce Clients
My clients don’t come to me because they’re in conflict. They come because they want to:
- Get it done right
- Avoid going to court
- Stay peaceful through the process
- Know that it’s handled professionally
I help by:
- Reviewing or creating your full divorce agreement
- Calculating support using California guidelines
- Preparing and filing every court document on your behalf
- Handling your child support worksheet, parenting plan, or asset disclosures
- Walking you through each step so you never feel confused or alone
You don’t need a judge. You need a guide.
Beyond Divorce: Additional Support
I also help Alameda County residents with:
- Name changes
- Adoptions
- Wills and trusts
- Conservatorships
- Paternity filings
- Probate paperwork
- Restraining orders (when needed for safety)
Many clients return when life brings other legal transitions. It’s always an honor to support people through life’s next chapter.
What Clients Say
“Denise took care of everything. It was such a relief. She answered all my questions, and I never felt rushed. It felt like a friend was helping me through a really hard time.”
“I thought we could do the paperwork ourselves—but I’m so glad we didn’t. Denise saved us from delays and court appearances. Worth every penny.”
Don’t Let an Easy Divorce Turn Complicated
If you and your spouse are mostly in agreement, that’s something to be proud of. Now make sure the process reflects that same peace and clarity.
Let me help you:
- Finish your divorce efficiently
- Stay out of court
- Save time, money, and stress
Schedule your free call today to talk about your situation and get a clear plan: Book now
Denise Foster – Divorce With Dignity – Alameda
About the Author
Denise Foster is a Divorce With Dignity Provider serving Alameda County since 1995. A certified paralegal and mediation-trained professional, she provides legal document assistance, divorce planning, and compassionate support for people seeking peaceful, cost-effective resolutions. Her mission is to make the legal system accessible, efficient, and human.
Learn more or schedule a free consultation at Divorce With Dignity – Alameda County
