By Cory J. Flohr, Certified Divorce Mediator – South Metro Colorado
Disclaimer: I am not an attorney and do not provide legal advice. My role as a certified divorce mediator is to help clients resolve their divorce outside of the courtroom through structured, respectful conversations and clear agreements. Please consult an attorney for legal advice specific to your situation.
Divorce Is Already Hard. Misunderstanding It Makes It Harder.
If you’re facing a divorce or even just thinking about it, you’ve probably heard advice from well-meaning friends, coworkers, or Google. Some of it might be helpful—but a lot of it is simply wrong.
As a certified mediator who helps families in Douglas and El Paso Counties navigate divorce without litigation, I’ve seen how harmful these myths can be. They create fear, delay progress, and sometimes lead people to make expensive decisions based on false assumptions.
Below, I want to share some of the most common misconceptions I hear—and what’s actually true.
🧨 Myth #1: You Have to Go to Court
Reality: Most divorces don’t involve a courtroom at all.
With the right support, many couples resolve everything—from parenting plans to financial agreements—outside of court. Mediation is one of the most efficient and respectful paths to do that. It gives you control over the process and outcome, instead of handing that control to a judge.
🧨 Myth #2: Divorce Is Always a Fight
Reality: Divorce can be hard—but it doesn’t have to be hostile.
I work with many clients who don’t want to “win.” They want clarity, closure, and peace. Mediation allows you to express concerns, explore options, and move forward without escalating conflict. You don’t have to be best friends—you just have to be willing to make thoughtful decisions.
🧨 Myth #3: Everything Will Be Split 50/50
Reality: Colorado is not a strict “50/50” state.
Property is divided equitably—which doesn’t always mean equally. Factors like income, contributions to the marriage, and parenting responsibilities all come into play. Mediation gives you flexibility to craft agreements that feel fair to both sides.
🧨 Myth #4: If We Don’t Agree on Everything, Mediation Won’t Work
Reality: Mediation doesn’t require you to agree at the start—just to participate.
You don’t need to walk into mediation already aligned. You need a process that helps you communicate, understand your options, and move toward resolution. That’s what I guide you through.
🧨 Myth #5: Only Lawyers Can Help Me Navigate Divorce
Reality: Legal representation is important in some cases—but it’s not the only option.
As a certified mediator, I work with clients who want a structured, professional divorce process without litigation. I can also work alongside consulting attorneys if you want legal backup while keeping the process amicable and cost-effective.
🧨 Myth #6: Mediation Is Just for “Simple” Divorces
Reality: Mediation is often most valuable in complex divorces.
If you have children, shared property, businesses, or financial entanglements—mediation allows for flexible, tailored problem-solving. The complexity doesn’t disqualify you from mediation—it’s a good reason to consider it.
Takeaway: Information > Assumptions
There’s a lot of noise out there. But getting clear on what’s true—and what’s not—can make a world of difference. Whether you’re preparing for divorce, already in the process, or just exploring your options, I’m here to help you understand the path forward.
📞 Ready to move past the myths and make informed decisions?
Contact a Provider Near You today.
About the Author: Cory J. Flohr
Cory J. Flohr, Divorce Mediator, Divorce Services Provider
Cory J. Flohr is a certified divorce mediator and services Provider based in South Metro Colorado, proudly serving clients in Douglas and El Paso Counties. Before entering the field of family mediation, Cory worked in some of the most high-pressure environments imaginable—from advising members of Congress on political strategy to flying commercial aircraft across the country.
What unites those careers with his work today is his ability to remain calm under pressure, distill complexity into clarity, and help people move forward with confidence.
But Cory’s approach isn’t just shaped by his résumé—it’s shaped by his life. As a father and someone who has personally navigated divorce and co-parenting, Cory brings deep empathy, structured thinking, and personal insight to every client conversation.
His practice is designed for real people—not perfect ones—who want a more thoughtful, dignified way to divorce. Whether you need full mediation, a strategic planning session, or help with divorce paperwork, Cory offers clear, neutral guidance you can count on.
