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I Want A Divorce. Where Do I Start?

When someone calls my office and says, “I want a divorce. Where do I start?”, the first thing I ask them is if they are absolutely sure that this is really what they want. It’s a major step with permanent ramifications, so if there is any doubt at all it’s very important for them to […]

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Clearing The Emotional Stuckness Of Divorce

The issues which come up in a marriage generally seem like they’ll go away if we can just be done with that relationship! You naturally expect that you’ll be done with feelings like anger at being abused, or sadness from being discounted, or even jealousy driven by a spouse’s affair. This belief is one of […]

Gwyneth Paltrow, left, and Chris Martin are seen at the 3rd Annual Sean Penn & Friends HELP HAITI HOME Gala on Saturday, Jan. 11, 2014 at the Montage Hotel in Beverly Hills, Calif. (Photo by Colin Young-Wolff /Invision/AP)

Gwyneth Paltrow And Chris Martin – Amicable Divorce Still Working

Two years ago we published a blog article about the decision made by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin to split up, and to do so in a peaceful and friendly manner. Calling it “conscious uncoupling”, the couple who had been married more than 10 years made the effort to create an amicable divorce for the […]

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Litigated Divorce – An Expensive And Traumatic Choice

I was reading the other day about a particular litigated divorce case which resulted in a 36-day trial and $500,000 in lawyer fees. That's half a million dollars! The divorcing individuals were not wealthy – he worked as a police officer and she had a part-time computer-based business, so those legal fees had a huge […]

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Interview With A Divorce With Dignity Provider

Denise Foster, our Divorce With Dignity provider in Alameda County, CA, was recently interviewed on a radio program by Ronnie Joy, The Midlife Dating Coach. Ronnie asked Denise to talk about how she can help people who are considering amicable divorce or separation. Denise explained that she can work with people in whatever stage of […]

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Understanding The Role of Divorce Papers In An Uncontested Divorce

Divorce papers, documents stating the desire for a divorce and outlining the reasons for filing, must be filed in every divorce case. We’ve all heard about one spouse receiving “divorce papers” from another and it usually carries a very ugly connotation. But this doesn’t have to be the case, particularly when the divorce is uncontested. […]

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What Exactly Is An Amicable Divorce?

The definition of amicable divorce is a subject of much debate. Many people feel that the phrase is an oxymoron. By its definition, divorce is an adversarial process, so how could it possibly be amicable? But believe it or not, it is possible to have a quick and easy, relatively drama-free divorce, provided both sides […]

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The Divorce Process: Can An Uncontested Divorce Make It Easier?

How does divorce work?   Well, no matter how you look at it, it is never easy.  It can be a long, drawn out process and there may a lot of emotional upheaval on both sides.  Unfortunately, due to the nature of the subject, it is almost impossible to avoid the ugly reality of divorce but […]

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Divorce – What To Do With That Spare Ring

During divorce proceedings, there always has to be an assessment of assets and debts so they can be divided up properly. Sometimes people just want an appraisal to determine the value of items to be included in the divorce agreement. Sometimes there is a desire to sell jewelry they no longer want, such as a […]

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Don’t Confuse Your Divorce Legal Professional with Your Financial Advisor!

Confusing your divorce legal professional with your financial advisor can be an expensive mistake. While an attorney or mediator can help you navigate the many legal aspects of separating property, a financial advisor can help you plan your future as a single adult. They can help you save money and time throughout the process of […]

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Going Through The Mediation Process Can Make Divorce Less Painful

Divorce is never easy, that goes without saying, but there are ways to make it a little less painful for everyone involved. One of these is undertaking the mediation process. Mediation can be a great way to ease both partners through the difficult journey that signals the end of a once loving marriage. Of course, […]

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How To Talk With Your Kids About Divorce

One of the hardest things for parents who are divorcing to do is find the best way to tell their children. We’ve asked Jill Valenti, a Family Counselor & Parenting Coach, to share some ideas about how to talk with your kids about divorce. Jill has been certified to lead the Quality Parenting Program, is […]